September 02, 2009

A New Beginning

As I write tonight, my heart is so broken. I do have hope and see the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel, but it seems so far off. The last month has been a myriad of revelations, heart wrenching and life changing. My American dream, well, isn't so dreamy anymore. My husband of eight years, today, in fact, and I will be divorcing. He has made choices of which I cannot follow, nor find enough strength to move forward beside him. He will always have my continued support on his road to recovery and my hope is that he will do what is necessary for the sake of his children.


Here again, at 33. Not where I expected to be. I'm trying hard to embrace the fact that I am a single mom now. I hope Paul will find the courage and strength to help me raise these two beautiful gifts from God, because they only deserve the best from both of us. Should that mean just from me, I am willing to take that step. I used to have so many expectations, but now I feel like I'm living more than I have ever before. The wounds are so fresh and deep, and I've no choice but to deal with every thing that comes my way. Procrastination has no place in my life anymore. Sometimes my to-do list seems like cement shoes, and I can't move forward, side or back; but if I can cross one thing off each day, I've accomplished something. Baby steps.



I've had to pack away my Mommy guilt with my belongings. There's no room for that either. I have to focus on my list to DO the best for my kids right now. A few weeks of too much t.v. or snacks will be worth the calm when our life is reclaimed as ours again. Whatever, wherever, whenever that may be. My blog is my soul unleashed, so I feel that these are the things that have been affecting me for the last two months, therefore, I must reveal all. I feel the need to purge. I've purged my material possessions, now I can purge the sadness. I do not want to carry any negativity with me. It will only fester inside me, and allow what I do not want or need to penetrate my spirit. I could sit in a corner and cry and feel sorry for myself. But then I would be missing so much around me. The funny things my kids say, a call from a friend, the joke via email that made me smile. Once again I will reiterate, God is leading me down this path. Never in a million years would I have seen myself here. It is not what I want for myself and kids, but it is my reality. I have prayed so hard for guidance on this decision, and feel at total peace with it. With the Lord by my side there is nothing I cannot do, or that cannot be done.

Here's to a new beginning. My new life. My new labels. Take a deep breath, here we go!

I feel a blog makeover coming soon!

6 comments:

  1. Hugs and prayers are headed your way - you are an awesome example of strength and courage... I am lucky to know you - whatever I can help with, I am here for you and your kids!
    Erin

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  3. That was beautiful!

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  4. That was me, but I can't don't have any of these accounts. You have so much grace!
    Brenda Kauhane

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  5. Hi! I am a mom from Hastings and found your site through the Mommy Blog site. I could very much relate to this one.. I decided only a couple months ago to divorce my husband of about four years. I also have 2 kids, Matthew is 3 and Ella is 1 and a half. I write a column for the Hastings newspaper called "The Mom Chronicles". My blog is www.hastingsmomchronicles.blogspot.com Feel free to check it out! I wish you and your kiddos all the best! I always am looking for column ideas, especially from moms in the single or semi-single realm, so if you ever want to email me I would love to hear from you and chat with you about the column. My email is amyellamatthew@gmail.com I truly hope that this difficult road and transition is going ok for you guys. I guess we never know why God allows things to happen in our lives, but I do believe every thing has a purpose. I tend not to be real patient about finding out what it is.... ahem... but it is true. I am certain things will work out for you just as they are meant to. Best wishes! Amy, the Hastings Mom

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  6. Wishing you courage and strength on your journey! I can't say that I understand what you're going through because I don't. But I do know if I was in your shoes, I'd like a hug so I'm sending you one via the internet.

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