April 02, 2012

Bad Is Good, Right?

I throw out the "B" word a lot in this blog, no not bitch, but bitchery.  So close.  Not the same and I'll tell you why.  Bitch is a derogatory word that can be used as a pronoun, or adjective.  I am not a self-proclaimed bitch per se.  So why in the world would I and my partners in crime, Christina and Marjorie ever embrace the "B" word as we have and form the super fantastic Bitchery Triad?

Seems like any strong-willed woman-type with an opinion can just be dismissed as a bitch these days.  That's not okay in my book.  So here are my top 3 things that define bitchery:

I Am Comfortable In My Own Skin:


That's no fabrication.  I love myself, who I am, and think I have tons to offer.  Does that make me conceited or a bitch?  Only to those who are intimidated.  I'm not an intimidating person, well most of the time, anyway.  You push anybody up against a wall they'll fight back.  But I won't let someone elses lack of self-esteem affect my own.  Does that make me a bitch?  I don't think so, I just have a slammin' bitchery attitude.


Bitchery Is Bravery:


It's no lie that I've had my share of internet smackdowns.  Here's what may surprise you, I don't troll the interwebz looking for trouble, it finds me well enough on its own.  Shush.  I am not a person who will sit by and allow stupidity to go unchallenged, lies be told, or follow the masses or jump on the bandwagon just because everyone else is.  I don't want to start trouble.  But let's face it, the "troublemakers" are game changers.  Troublemakers change the world.  Because I'm brave it doesn't give me license to say whatever I please, but I won't be silenced when there is a wrong to be righted.  It means I'm not going to let you be a bully.  And maybe the fact that I have two awesome gals to back me up might make us seem like bitches, but you'd be lucky to have them in your corner.

FUN:


The longer I walk the Earth, the sadder I become when I see the toll life takes on people's souls.  Because they allow it.  Life can certainly suck, no doubt, had my share.  But it can also be a heck of a lot of fun too.  I have no tolerance for:

I can't, I won't, I'll never, poor me, it will never happen to me, they are lucky, I am unlucky, moan, whine, complain and whine, whine, whine.

Life is going to hand you lemons no matter how much money you have in the bank, no matter how many break-ups or lonely nights you have, no matter how many times you're picked last in dodge-ball.  So stop wallowing, pick yourself up and LIVE.  You can get busy living or get busy dying, your choice.{Andy Dufresne, The Shawskank Redemption}  But I only have this one life to live, I'm going to squeeze every last smile and laugh out I can.  Christina and Marjorie help me do that.

The Triad has big plans on the horizon, a blog, bitchery prompts and linkups are in the works.  Follow us on TWITTER and FACEBOOK for updates.

Embrace your inner bitchery and read my girl's posts on Bitchery Basics:

Christina aka Solitary Mama
Marjorie aka Don't Call Me Marge

This post was part of the A-Z Challenge for April: The Letter B.



34 comments:

  1. Ha! I got here first this time! That qualifies me for something....or maybe that says that I have nothing better to do with my time than sit on my computer waiting (stalking) other people's activities...I'm helpless...wait..that was whiny...sorry...wait that was apologetic and weak well anyway, I guess I'll stick to just being a supportive person who tells you how incredibly great you are and that I love you with all my heart.

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    1. No apologies, unless you're wrong, and you aren't:) I should give away something for the first comment...but what would I give away? Thank you always for being so supportive of me, I have some most awesome news to share with you too, I'll email.

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  2. oi, I'm sorry if I'm cramping your style. lol!

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  3. Amazing how we're all on the same page. I love you, ladies.

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  4. I can't wait for the bitchery prompts. I'm looking to unleash my inner bitchery. (Did I say that right?)

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    1. Right on! I can't wait either, going to be so fun when everyone can join in the Bitchery Nation;)

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  5. I'm taking notes on all these Bitchery qualities so I may develop into a fun-lovin', strong-willed woman, too. I love your club. I know you gals are being somewhat silly & enjoying yourselves, but I gotta tell ya --- you're all quite inspirational. Thank you for what you share! :)

    Andi-Roo /// @theworld4realz
    http://www.theworld4realz.com/
    theworldforrealz@gmail.com

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    1. Andi-Roo, don't make me weepy:) I know, pretty soon we'll have our own Hallmark line of bitchery cards.

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  6. I LOVE the bitchery posts from all of your beautiful ladies!! You're right, life's always going to give you lemons, you just have to take them with a shot of tequila xx

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    1. That's right! Tequila makes me a little bit crazy. Or would that be crazier?

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  7. I completely agree that bitchery is bravery, it is also a beauty...:)

    --Damyanti, Co-host A to Z Challenge April 2012

    Twitter: @AprilA2Z
    #atozchallenge

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  8. Preach it Sista! Great post!

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    1. Woot! Gonna need some of your boxed wine for "C", and going to try to write it on my lunch break. Should be interesting.

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  9. You couldn't ask for two better chicks to back you up, and they're lucky to have someone like you, who really lives and finds the good in things, and squeezes every laugh and smile out that you can. :-)

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    1. You have no idea, Amberr. I am here for comic relief most often...they do all the work.;)

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  10. Such a lovely, positive post! I went through some heartache at the end of last year and am picking myself up piece by piece at the moment. It's posts like this that really help me :)

    Nikki – inspire nordic

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    1. Oh, I'm glad it helped. You can do it. I've been at my lowest low only a few years ago. My friends and faith saw me through....you can do it, girl. Lean on others for support.

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  11. True story chick!! This is a great post, I couldn't agree more. Just because I know who I am and am very happy with that person doesn't make me conceited, it makes me confident. I realize that there is yet some work to be done to improve my life, but as a person, I. Am. The. Bomb. Just ask my kid, she'll tell you, and her word is law (something to do with being two I think, lol). I am fairly snarky and my sense of humor is pretty dry, people are often put off by the fact that IRL I am very quiet when I first meet them. I am an observer, but when there is trouble to be had I will jump in and put my two cents in when I think there is wrong being done. Separated at birth I tell you. :-)

    Great post! Off to read the other two installments...

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    1. We were separated at birth, just with 10 years in between. When you can talk to someone publicly about your boobs, and I can in turn talk about mine...pretty sure that screams confident. Confident women get a bad rap, period.

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    2. Ten years my bahookie! I will give you 5 tops. :-) Confidence should be a trait to be treasured, and any man that can't appreciate that deserve a good swift kick. We are all beautiful and every woman should hear it, I'm not saying bow down, but recognize the awesome. I refuse to settle (or to date apparently) because why would I want to set that example for my little. I want her to know that she deserves someone who will treat her with respect and the love she deserves. The best way to do that is to show her by giving myself the same.

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  12. I already considered you comfortable in your own skin, brave and fun. There's a good chance our kids will read our blogs in a few years, you okay with them reading about mommy and her "bitchery triad"?

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    1. "And this, kids, is what's known as a 'complisult.'"

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    2. Actually Marjorie, I'm quite good at the complisult too. Threw that down on Beard's blog awhile back.

      Yeah, I'm pretty sure my kids will read my blog. And I'm not ashamed of any of it. In fact, proud, and it has provided me with opportunity to freelance quite a bit so I can provide more for them. And I don't feel that I am compromising one bit of who I am for that.

      Also fairly certain that Audrey is going to read the bitchery posts and NOT become a raging lunatic by reading them, go rogue and start street fights all because I said, "bitchery". I've swore in front of her a time or two, by the way. Imperfect I am, and she'll see my flaws and mistakes and imperfections and maybe not have to feel like she has to live up to something that is unattainable. Perfect is unattainable.

      What she will see is her Mom bringing bitchery down at the school for unfair treatment, discrimination, and foolish behavior.

      Sad but true in a few years, my daughter is probably going to be called a bitch for standing up for what she believes in by some jerk. Or maybe saying something that is not socially acceptable. I can teach her how to deal with it appropriately instead of ignoring that it will happen. And I'm also sure that she'll be no angel and probably call other girls that too. I'm a girl...so kinda remember that stuff. Happens no matter where you go to school. Hits at 13, fyi.

      I am also an adult, she is a child. So can she have a bitchery triad on the playground, of course not. Am I going to get flack from "people" who think I'm a sass, or inappropriate? Or infer things about my judgment? Yep, don't care. They don't have to read, and I'm not upset by it.

      Thanks for stopping by. I think you c&p your bacon comment right into my blog. Thought I'd seen that before. Makes it all the more special.

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  13. Your comment doesn't surprise me considering your belief that women should be cooking and not speaking. You and Cari have been good friends for a while. I would think you could be more supportive.

    You're not asking me about my kid. So I'll leave that alone. I suggest you worry about your own blog and your own daughter, if anything. Cari (from what I can tell) is doing just fine taking care of hers.

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    1. No worries, Maj, but thanks for having my back...always. Super lucky to have you in my life and love ya.

      Not sure why anyone would want to start something on a triad post, talk about thinking things through. We are a triad.

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  14. Umm....Awkward position to be in, but, sure I'll just go ahead and post next like it's all sunshine and daisies...

    We all need girlz in our lives--people who lift you up, make you a better person, support you in what you want to do and keep you company during the ups and downs.

    I'm so glad you've found this. It's very special.

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    1. So sorry hon, just ignore it. It is back to sunshine and daises, that's how we roll on BGOMS, I don't let the haters bring me down.

      I agree, good friends are necessary, especially girlfriends, because they get it. Life wouldn't be as fun without them...and then I'd have to drink alone too.

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  15. you and your crew make me laugh!!!
    and any post that quotes "the shawshank redemption" is epic in my book. did you hear me... EPIC!!!!

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    1. Such a good movie, right? Okay, I now divulge a secret. I wrote it and then had to look up who said it. I could hear Morgan Freeman in my head...but couldn't place it. I was pleasantly surprised.

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  16. Nothing better than a sense of inner confidence! Loved this post Cari! In the words of Jann Arden "Feet on ground, Heart in hand, Facing forward, Be yourself". :)

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    1. Love that! Thanks Pam! I kinda loved it to...an affirmation if you will.:)

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