April 30, 2012

To I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers: #AutismPositivity2012


As-per-ger's syndrome   noun \ˈäs-ˌpər-gərz-\
: a developmental disorder resembling autism that is characterized by impaired social interaction, by repetitive patterns of behavior and restricted interests, by normal language and cognitive development, and often by above average performance in a narrow field against a general background of deficient functioning—called also Asperger's disorder via Merriam-Webster
My letter to a person with Asperger's: I won't call you special.
I won't call you "special" I will call you tenacious.  A tenacious person of truth.  In a world where we see so much corruption, you are a light.  You will be the light in the darkest parts of this world.  A light that reveals truth to humankind because you know no other way.  You are one of the privileged few who will lead life without the guilt of lying to get ahead, or hurt, or taking; because it does not come easily for you.  When truth is uncovered it is hard to keep darkness hidden.  You are needed so desperately to provide balance and rightness in this world.

I won't call you "special" I will call you awe-inspiring.  Your ability to focus is an unparalleled talent.  Little or big, you will do great things.  You hear what other's cannot hear; and see what other's cannot see.  Your visions are clear and you are unstoppable.  You will bring such wonder and change with your ideas and abilities.

I won't call you "special" I will call you human.  Every human being no matter who they are, no matter their limitations; walks the Earth with doubt.  Doubt that they aren't good enough, or strong enough or normal enough.  We all spend too much time trying to fit in and be who we think we should be instead of who we are.  The sooner we accept who we are and focus on the abilities and talents we already have instead of wishing for ones we don't have, the happier we will be.

I won't call you "special" I will call you loved.  You are loved. Know that. 

This post was a combination of the A-Z Challenge {\ˈäs-ˌpər-gərz-\} "Z" AND 
{We are asking every blogger in the autism community to write a message of positivity to #IWishIDidntHaveAspergers.  So that next time that individual (or another) types that sad statement into Google, he or she will find what they need – support, wisdom, and messages of hope from those who understand.}



45 comments:

  1. Great post! It didn't come up in my triberr stream. Glad I caught it here. So well done!

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    1. Thanks, Gina. I am not happy that it didn't go through the Triberr stream either, and sent Dino a 911 email, asap. Hopefully he can get it squared away.

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  2. What a great idea. Love this.

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    1. Me too. Awesome kudos to the Flash Blog Posse that thought it up...I LOVE social media and blogging when we can do stuff like this!

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  3. Another incredible insight.
    I'm going to link- you- up via my blog (my one's of readers:)
    You said it so beautifully.

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  4. This one made me teary. I saw our younger son in your words. Very moving.

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    1. Well your little guy is amazing. These kids are just blessings.

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  5. Great post. Got me all emotional.

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    1. Thanks. I had to write it very quickly last night, and cried the whole way through.

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  6. Very beautiful! It's posts like these that lift a person's spirit whether they have Asperger's syndrome or not! Pining this so I can pass it on & keep it fow when I need it!

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    1. Thanks, and I knew what you meant anyway, hahaha! Glad it lifts you up;)

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  7. This is a great message, thank you for writing and posting it. I am very moved.

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    1. I just feel privileged to have participated. So many amazing posts today from parents of these kids. Heartwarming.

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  8. Boy...you sure know how to go out with a BANG!!!

    I will call YOU special! (({})) ;P

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    1. Started with Autism, ending with Autism, seems appropriate since April is Autism Awareness month. I liked that this was the last day of the challenge too.

      OMGOSH!!!! I got the va-jay-jay! Bahahaha!

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  9. What a wonderful letter and so true! Congratulations on being one of Thelmaz 26! Stopping by to say Hi.
    Kathy at Oak Lawn Images

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    1. I know I feel pretty cool that I got picked out of 1900. Thanks for popping over and reading.

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  10. This is beautiful Cari - I used to do art workshops with kids with aspergers and I would call them awe inspiring too. Brilliant xxx

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  11. This is such a refreshing post and something I think everyone should read. People are so quick to make assumptions about people with any type of learning difficulty (I'm not sure if that's the right phrase to use, I hope it's not an insulting one) but if only they'd spend a bit of time with them they would see all these beautiful qualities xx

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    1. Not insulting to me. People always assume, I suppose we all judge a book by its cover at first glance. I hate using Autism as an "excuse" for the reason my son does the things he does, but it seems like the only way people will understand sometimes. There is perfection in imperfection, that is for certain.

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  12. wonderful reminder that every individual has gifts and weaknesses. Very touching end to the a-z. Glad to have found you. :-)

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    1. Ditto! It did seem like a very fitting end. What in the world I would've done for "Z" otherwise.

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  13. This is truly beautiful. You can encourage me to write my own thing all you want, but I'm just gonna go ahead and post your link with a "Yeah, what she said" comment.

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    1. I think you should do it. And that coming from you, my dear, huge compliment...thank you;)

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  14. Very touching Cari. Congratulations for making it through the challenge and also for your words of encouragement along the way!

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    1. We did it! Woo-hoo. And now I shall retire and fall into a blog coma.

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  15. I loved this letter. I used to be a preschool teacher and had a child in my class with Asperger Syndrome. By far the most intelligent, tenacious child in my class. At 3 years old, he built an entire Home Depot with all the departments solely out of Lego blocks. Now that is tenacity and awesomeness!

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    1. They are amazing kids, right? And bless your heart for being a preschool teacher, I could never. Well I probably could, but it wouldn't be pretty.

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  16. This one really hit home, Cari. Sorry I'm just now getting to it, but glad in a way, as it is perfect timing. Suffice to say, I feel your message & it is getting passed where it's needed most. Thank you, beautiful! :)

    Andi-Roo /// @theworld4realz
    http://www.theworld4realz.com/
    theworldforrealz@gmail.com

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    1. I love perfect timing! Hope it helps in whatever capacity it is needed. Thanks, makes me smile;)

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  17. This was a really beautiful, inspiring post. If anything, part of me wishes I'd grown up when Asperger's had a name, instead of having to wait till I was 29 years old to finally belatedly get the long-suspected confirmation of what was really behind all those unexplained issues I had in lower elementary school and even earlier. At least these people who wish they didn't have Asperger's have a name and resources for their issues instead of a huge question mark.

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    1. I am so sorry. Sorry because I can only imagine how hard it must have been to think, "why am I different" and not know why. Really when it comes down to it we are all different. I hope you know you can walk with your head held high, embracing how magnificent you are. You ARE loved.

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