April 10, 2012

Invisible


I am writing this post out of guilt.  I was going to skip, "I" in the A-Z Challenge and say it was my imaginary post {very controversial post at that}.  But I can't skip, not yet anyway, darn you conscience!  I have read so many amazing and inspiring blogs thus far along the alphabet and they keep me writing.  I am also having a terrible inner struggle with my writing in this challenge because I LOVE to write about crap, nothing serious, but this challenge is bringing out nothing but serious.  I may as well embrace it.  When life pushes you, I find it's best to go with it.  Sorry you all have to come along for the ride while I have a growth spurt.

I think everyone has had a moment of invisibility.  Whether you wanted it or not.  A moment you overhear a conversation, see something you wish you hadn't, do something regrettable when not a soul could see you.  Often those invisible moments bring strife and hardship.  Secrets can be revealed that we struggle to hide away and forget we saw, or they burn in our memories, or make us feel foolish or hurt.

Other moments of invisibility include being in a group and feeling like nobody sees you.  That you could leave or walk away, and no one would notice.  And in those situations do we try even harder to be seen, so we won't look alone, or unpopular, or be...invisible?

My point of this very short post is to open your eyes and look beyond yourself today and notice the invisible person.  Some people in life try very hard not to be seen; some are forgotten, therefore unseen.  And we will walk by them, hurried by life and cell phones and lists of errands; with more important things to do in our day, and forget them as soon as we saw them.  

How often do you actually look people in the eye during the day?  Are you planning your next move still in mid-conversation?  Take a moment to look around you, and seek out the invisible and notice them.  Help a stranger with a door, smile at them and look them in the eye, or say hello.  Smiles are contagious, and I doubt anyone will call the authorities for stalking because of a smile.  What do you have to lose?

This post brought to you by the letter "I", the A-Z Challenge, the A-Z Challenge police if there is such a thing and my guilt, massive blogging challenge guilt.

18 comments:

  1. I've been feeling invisible lately.....but I haven't done a great job of noticing folks either. Good post.

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  2. I've been going invisible lately as well. I think we all do it.

    Cari, you can't bail! Not until "x", anyway!

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    1. We do. I think it's important to pull ourselves out of it though.

      I have plans for "X" baby...x-rated or, well that's all I have, so really I have nothing for X.

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  3. great post! I often feel invisible (usually at Starbucks when someone cuts in front of me..... what's up with that?!).

    best,
    MOV
    http://mothersofbrothersblog.blogspot.com

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    1. WEll kick them in the shin! Just kidding, that's wrong, it's worse than being cut off in traffic. I'd probably give them the laser eye. But coming between someone and their caffeine? Not right.

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  4. The older I get....hmmm...invisibler. True story.

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    1. I see you, always. xx

      The older I get, the more seen, readable, noticed, un-invisibler I feel. Can't hide, probably a God thing and a good thing.

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  5. Beautiful Post !! You write from the heart:) Keep that going Cari !

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    1. My tiny black heart? haha, just kidding, although some might not disagree. Thanks sweetie.

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  6. Nice post Cari. It is nice to meet you and I have just become a new follower.

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  7. I'm proud of you girl! Way to go for sticking with it!!

    Seriously chick, for having intended to write an "imaginary" post, you knocked this sucker out of the park!! I love all sides of you Cari, snarky, funny, serious, your posts are amazing. This is something I struggle with on a fairly regular basis, I smile at strangers (because you never know if that one smile might bring them back), I always say please and thank you. It's me though, I fade, I'm not sure I do it intentionally. I think I fear I won't be liked or good enough so I fade into the background. I'm not saying that for anyone to say I am liked, I just think it helps to share, so other people may realize they aren't alone.

    This was a really great post girl! You made my day!!!!!

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    1. I think we all fade. I do that when I'm just spent and haven't got anything left. I think if I can't be nice or 100% for someone, I just fade away until I can recoup. But loved that line about a smile bringing them back...awesome;)

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  8. Love this - and I hate that feeling. Like being in a big group and it not mattering that you are there. Serious post or spunky - I really love them all. Seeing this side is nice.

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    1. Thanks, my friend. Isn't it funny how every single person feels this way at some point? Yet, when we look at others we think, "oh they must never feel that way, or alone, or insignificant", but they do.

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