April 11, 2012

Just Be...Can You Be Alone?

Can you be alone?  Not only in relevance to relationships, but even just alone with yourself, for a few minutes, hours or days?  If you are a parent, I know two minutes alone in the bathroom is coveted time.  It is human nature to crave companionship, friendship or love.  But being alone has almost become a plague of sorts.  Or at least a case for 20 questions without much interest in finding the truth by 'well meaning' people who surround us.  Why?  Because alone is often associated with negative connotations: weird, quiet, old maid, bitch, divorced, single, etc.

Every human being on this Earth needs to learn how to be alone.  We need time to filter out the noise from the outside world to hear exactly what we want and need.  No outside influence, just us.  And there is no better way to get to know ourselves.

I loved this video on being alone and encourage you to watch it... stick with it, shaky start, but a really wonderful progression.  Thanks to my cousin, Hols for passing it along to me.



Can you be alone?  Can you do some of those things in the video, or are they too frightening?

This post brought to you by the letter, "J", A-Z Challenge for April.

27 comments:

  1. I would totally give my left ovary to be able to do any of those things!

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    1. Funny that when we could do them alone, we didn't want to do them alone; now that we hardly get time alone, we crave it?

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    2. Oh and I don't think anyone wants my ovaries, for one they are used; two, pretty sure they are retiring soon.

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  2. Agree! Besides, I don't need my ovaries anymore. LOL! I would live in an apartment the size of a closet and sleep on a Murphy Bed. I may not even get a dog. Just give me a week to re-invent my life and simply be alone!
    Darn it, now you'll have me dreaming of this IN THE MIDDLE OF SPRING BREAK! Thanks, pal!

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    1. I think I could totally do that too. I would sleep for half the week and not make breakfast for ANYONE!!! So dogs out.

      Yeah, sorry, I'm here all week...two more days, hang in there!

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  3. I cherish my alone time...not that I get much of it. I had summer internships in Chicago. I never hesitated to go grab dinner, a movie, anything all by myself. After I moved to a smaller place, I found that more difficult for some reason.

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    1. Perhaps it's easier to get lost in a big city? People are so busy they don't take notice. I dream of alone time, *le sigh*.

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  4. I do enjoy my alone time whenever I can get it:)
    Nutschell
    www.thewritingnut.com
    Dropping by from the A-Z!

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  5. I can and I love it! It's a very comforting thing to know that you are ok with being alone :)

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    1. It is comforting, and necessary, because there are times in life where we will be alone. I'm glad most see it as a thing to cherish.

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  6. Stopping by from the Challenge. Signed up to follow (at least I hope it went through). I love the video. I lost my husband several years ago and I'm surprised how comfortable I am with being alone in my house.

    Hope you'll visit back.

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    1. I am so sorry about your husband. I'm glad you have peace and comfort. Agree the video was good. I'll go check in with you, thanks for the follow.

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  7. I thought the post was awesome! The video...very intriguing! I checked out the video maker...I love her work...I'll have to try her style soon.

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    1. Let me know when you do. I thought it had some good momentum and some wise words.

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  8. I'm really good with alone! I'm trying to visit all the A-Z Challenge Blogs this month.

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    1. Holy toledo! I am trying to visit everyone who comments, and that is tough enough for me. Well done!

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  9. I am accustomed to having my time alone. One thing I am not comfy with, however, is going to the movies by myself. I have done it a few times, and man oh man, did I ever get some odd glances. Mind you, these were not porn movies, but rather adventure films.

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    1. Haha! Well the movies are one place I can ALWAYS go alone. I think once it's dark and you get wrapped up in the movie, nobody notices...unless it's a porn movie, but I wouldn't know;)

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  10. Couldn't agree more! Great video, thanks for sharing it. I enjoy going to the movies by myself, and I hike every weekend with just the dog, which is LOVELY. I covet my alone time, I seem to be so much more productive and then happier when I meet/see other people.

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    1. Alone with nature is my favorite alone time. I wish I had more of it for certain, but I still enjoy it equally as much with my kiddos, most of the time.

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  11. This video couldn't have come at a better time for me. I was up reading last night and there was not a sound in the house and I began to think that I need to get myself out and do things, even if they are only own. There will come a time in my life that I wont have as much along time, so I think I should relish in it and enjoy it while I can. - This video is being saved to my youtube cache!

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    1. Sorry, I couldn't get past the "not a sound in the house", lol. I think life is an experience, worth it even alone.

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  12. I love being alone. Writing happens in a solitary state. So does reflecting, praying. My kids are now adults, but I remember the years when going to the bathroom alone was a treat. The older I get, the more I enjoy my space/time/head. Thanks for the great post. I'm finding all kinds of great blogs in the A-Z challenge!

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    1. Thanks! Finding time for reflection is tricky when the littles are around. I think it is important to carve out that alone time even when parenting and while other things in life pull you away from it. It centers me, and I think that is necessary for my survival.

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  13. I crave alone time, being a mother of two (with one on the way). I agree, there is a stigma about being alone. Even when we are physically alone, it can feel like we should be "plugged in." I will have to come back to the video, as my children don't want to let me watch it now.

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    1. Been there, so understood. And really good point especially in this day and age, with smart phones and laptops and i-pads, etc. we can't escape being plugged in, unless we physically make that happen. Makes it easy to lose touch with ourselves, that's important when your a parent. Best wishes with number 3!

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