April 13, 2012

Ladies, Lower Your Standards!

No, that is not a serious headline, just in case you were about to click, comment.  It is actually inspired by an old Jon Lovitz, Saturday Night Live skit; which I have graciously included and it's hilarious.  The skit caters to women over 40 and why they need to lower their standards to "catch" a man.

I'm just going to be blunt here {nothing new} that's I'd rather be alone and without a man than settle for one less than perfect for ME.  Not perfect, because such does not exist, just perfect enough for me.  Being a single lady, I'm always surprised at what others, women and men will tolerate while dating just so they won't be alone.         I'm not going to pretend like there are buckets of available, good guys out there, I know the pickings are slim.  But hurt will come when we overlook bad treatment, or red-flags, or being treated less than the amazing human being we are.  We all deserve to be loved and treated right.  Everyone.

Enjoy the video, I'm out of here, my bff is in town!  My daughter said, "Mom, why do you two talk so much?"  Well, it's what we do.  I catch up with all my A-Z posse after the weekend!  And yes, Mullet for "M" is on its way by request.  It will not be my finest moment, but then again, those are rare anyway.




What do you think?  Do we get more complacent as we get older?

31 comments:

  1. Too awesome and funny! Love your blogs, Cari!

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    1. I thought it was funny too! Thanks, my dear and ditto.

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  2. Enjoy your BFF! I think my standards have gotten worse as I have gotten older for non-people things. I am more patient to wait it out. I almost decided not to date Michael because his teeth were so straight... weird right?!? I think those standards are those that just have to go.

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    1. Thanks! Well, I'm glad you decided to overlook the straight teeth, pretty awesome guy you have there. {And he's lucky as well} But, I do have a 'teeth' thing too, except the straighter the better;)

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  3. I am definitely NOT more complacent as I've gotten older. More crotchety...DEFINITELY! Ha!

    Yaay...looking forward to "M" for Mullet!!!!!

    Have a great time with your BFF! Those are the best times. ;P

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    1. We are having a great time. And I am so much more particular than I ever was. Actually "crotchety" is spot on...:)

      Oh yes, mullet, more than likely a low point in my blogging career, although that hasn't stopped me yet:)

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  4. I have definitely become more picky, and I was pretty damn picky anyway!

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    1. Exactly! And I think that's okay. Hate when I hear, "you are too picky"...too smart maybe.

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  5. I don't think women lower their standards or become complacent as they age. They only become more wise & patient, because they've seen it all & don't want to repeat mistakes. Maybe some issues become non-issues, but not from a lowering of standards --- it's because the more mature you become, the more you know what truly matters in life. A ding-dong just ain't all there is to making a gal happy, ya know?

    (not that ding-dongs can ever really be "hot". bleh!)

    Andi-Roo /// @theworld4realz
    http://www.theworld4realz.com/
    theworldforrealz@gmail.com

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    1. Well, I adore you, but I disagree. I think women do lower their standards, not necessarily as they age, but even after a bad break-up. I think when fear creeps in, it allows them to overlook things so they won't be alone. Sadly see it all the time. I for one fall into the older-wiser category.

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  6. My bible class teacher looks, sounds, and acts like Jon Lovitz (when his wife lets him get away with it). It cracks me up every time he teaches....ha ha ..is that silly? I think Jon is hillarious....but I have pretty (low) standards.

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    1. Your bible class must be a hoot! It would be hard to keep a straight face I suppose. A friend actually recommended that video to me when we were talking about this topic, I'd never seen it before.

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    2. His wife keeps saying " He says the same jokes all the time, You must be new! ".

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  7. Does the "perfect" one arrive perfect or do we need to give them a bit of "how to love me" training? At least mine seems to be trainable...lol

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    1. I think there will never be perfect. If we have that expectation of someone, it's just unattainable. Well, I look for the book on how to train your woman/man, but I think if we can give our significant other what they need, anticipate their needs, listen, understand, communicate and they can reciprocate; that's as much as anyone could ask for.

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  8. Women or men who seek the perfect spouse are still searching. They don't exist. It's better to be with someone whose flaws can be tolerated and/or appreciated.

    By the way, if you like SNK, you can read some scipts for free at www.simplyscripts.com

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    1. Couldn't agree more, well said.

      Thanks for the link. The video was actually recommended to me by a friend when we were discussing this topic. The video was terribly hard to locate on the internet, would have been much easier with the link there. Thanks!

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