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Standing for something, doesn't mean getting as big and loud and asinine and as preachy about it as we can. All that means is you're loud and have something to say. If you want the world to be a different place, a better place, shut up and change it! Stop yelling and blogging and arguing about it and do something.
As I've said many times in this blog. My pet peeve in this world is people who do nothing because they think they won't make a difference. Making a difference does not mean doing something big; sometimes the smallest measures make the biggest impact. A smile could be worth a million dollars. Acts of kindness change people's heart, not hatred. Loving through the bad times makes love stronger.
Here's my nickels worth, because two cents isn't nearly enough:
If you want to blog about controversy all the time, look scary, and constantly live defending your views because you put it out there (yet you wonder why everyone's mad at you or doesn't like you), you don't stand for what you write about...you stand for drama.
If you want to preach your beliefs to anyone that will listen or won't, provoke fights, spar people on the interwebz, you stand for jack until you walk the walk, dude.
Let me say to all of you people fighting on every social media site available over chicken sandwiches, and I realize it's not about chicken sandwiches, neither side stands for anything by fighting someone on Facebook about it. When you can say you have done something in your life to help a person that has nothing to do with a status update, then you stand for something. Be an example of what you would like to change in this world, because saying it is not enough. Saying something is a start, and sadly almost always, the end.
I'm so far from perfect and I love it. My flaws make me who I am. But I do know, to the depths of my soul what I stand for:
Courage- because I live it, because I take risks in my life that will make me happy and make those that I keep close to me happy. I am not courageous because I get into a fight with my neighbor over property lines, I am not courageous because I tell someone exactly what I think of them (that's my arrogance), I am not courageous because I take unnecessary risks. I am courageous because I have walked through a little bit of hell and back and that shit was hard. I am courageous because I do not give up, I will not let someone else's attitude defeat me, and I will not let life defeat me. I am courageous because I allow myself to be wrong, sad, mad, hurt, scared and I let those things improve me, not rule me.
Loyal- I am loyal to a fault. If you are my friend I will rise to the occasion and I will love you fiercely. If you hurt me, you're out, but I'm a patient person, it takes a while to get me to unfriend you.. I am loyal because I learned loyalty from the examples of some amazing people who were loyal to me when I was a terrible friend to them. For them, I will forever live my gratitude through my actions.
Family- I stand for family. It is the most important thing to me; it will always be the most important thing to me. My kids inspire me and I live my life in a way that no one could ever dispute that. I will fight the injustice and stigma that comes with the diagnosis of a disability, because I know it makes a difference. For my son to have a better future, pushing forward for change, will give him a fighting chance. I could win verbal battles all day long, but guess what, that changes nothing for him by me trying to prove you are wrong and I am right.
I'm human. I'm wrong, a lot. But I can admit when I am wrong, and I'm not ashamed of it. I have nothing to hide, or prove, or pretend. You get what you get with me and I'm pretty transparent. Compromise is the only thing that will ever change the world, not being right.
So do you know what you really stand for? Do you stand for: God, kindness, respect, fighting injustice, gay rights, equality, etc. But how far have you walked to prove any of that? Not even prove it to anyone, just yourself. What have you done to make a difference, to stand for something?
Posting something on your wall doesn't mean you stand for anything anymore than wearing heels makes me a super model.
Okay, end rant.